Being blunt doesn’t mean we have to communicate our views to others in a rude manner. Perhaps misconceptions derive from the reciever’s perception of the content being communicated or maybe misconceptions come from the reciever’s guilt or denial of the truth in the context. “The truth hurts,” so cliche goes. Whatever the case, “blunt” has earned itself a bad reputation.
So let’s clear the air. “Blunt or bluntness” can be best defined as straight-forth and truthful communication from one person to another and does NOT have to involve someone being the bad guy. So how does someone communicate bluntly without offending the other person? We have to be conscious and in control of our choices of context, tone of voice, and body language. The following steps offer some insightful ways on how to communicate bluntly without offending someone.
KNOW YOUR FACTS
It’s important to know all the facts before speaking. When approaching someone in a direct or blunt manner, let the facts speak the truth of the matter.
USE BUFFERS
Open communication with positive words before laying out the facts. Positive statements can help ease the directness of the facts as most of us know sometimes the truth hurts. A little cushioning can help soften the landing.
Use a statement such as: “I know you’ve worked really hard and I appreciate your effort but I would really like the see more …. “blunt statement” …. the next time you do try it.”
BE DIRECT NOT CONFRONTATIONAL
The rule here is say what you mean and mean what you say. If it isn’t your intention to be confrontational, DON’T! Use buffers, show the other person your good side. Just communicate the fact
WATCH YOUR TUNE
Use a monotone intonation or unvarying pitch and at a moderate speed rate when communicating your point. Speaking too loudly, too swiftly, too intensely or too softly can send the wrong message
BODY LANGUAGE SIGNALS
Too much direct eye contact or standing with your arms crossed signals to the other person that you’re angry. Looking down at your feet or fidgeting will send a signal of uncertainty to what you’re communicating. Another point is don’t speak with your hands or arms flaring about as it signals you’re irritated or confrontational.
How you compose your body can set the stage for understanding between persons or a totally start off as a miscontrued meeting between parties. It’s best to stand or sit upright, hands cusped. Head nodding is acceptable too.
SENSIBLE TIPS 1. Effective communication between persons without overstepping personal boundaries requires putting yourself in the other person’s shoes. 2. Think things through before speaking. 3. If the communication doesn’t go well at first, take a breather and rethink things before trying again. 4. Seek professional counseling or mediation if necessary.
